Often, the goals we want to achieve have already been accomplished by someone else. For instance, other people have successfully lost weight in the past, run a marathon in record time, overcome a life-threatening illness, started their own thriving business, or hosted the perfect party – and sometimes they will have written a manual or book to tell other people how to do the same thing! We don’t need to reinvent the wheel. Make the most of the resources that are available to you, whether these be articles, books, manuals, audio or video programmes, DVDs, university classes, online courses, seminars or workshops.
Successful people leave many clues – all of which are just waiting to be picked up by the next person. In this sense, life might be seen as a dot-to-dot game with all the dots already having being identified and put into the right order by someone else. All we have to do to achieve the same thing is follow the blueprint, use the system, or work the programme that they provide.
So why don’t we take advantage of these ‘clues’ more often? There are several common reasons:
- It never occurs to us. We don’t see others using these resources, so we don’t do it either. Out parents didn’t do it. Our friends aren’t doing it. Nobody we work with is doing it.
- It’s inconvenient. We’d have to go to the bookstore, library, or local college. We’d have to drive across town to a meeting. We’d have to take time away from television, family or friends.
- Asking others for advice or information puts us up against our fear of rejection. We are afraid to take the risk.
- Connecting the dots in a new way would mean change, and change – even if it is on our best interest – is uncomfortable. Who wants to be uncomfortable?
- Connecting the dots means hard work and most people don’t want to work that hard.
There are several ways to begin seeking out clues:
- Seek out a teacher, coach, mentor, manual, book or DVD programme or an Internet resource to help you achieve one of your major goals.
- Seek out someone who has already done what you want to do, and ask the person if you can interview him or her for half an hour on how you should proceed.
- Ask someone if you can shadow them for a day and watch them work. Or offer to be a volunteer or assistant for someone you think you can learn from.