“We are born free – free from what anyone else does. And we give that up ourselves by buying into things, by giving other people resentments, and fearing this, and worrying about that, and developing these selfish, self-seeking parts of our character. And then we end up confined by alcohol or food or other people (or other compulsive behaviour), and this all gets wrapped up into a great big ball, a cobweb of emotional tangle.”

J McQuany, The Steps We Took, 1990